Domestic dispute ned help?
Domestic dispute ned help?
Jan 01Question by Timothy B: Domestic dispute ned help?
Okay this isn`t really a domestic dispute so to speak more like me wanting to know if i`m right or wrong . First of all i`m 19 going on twenty i live with my mother i am going to school to become an electrician and i have a part time job my sister and i help out around the house with bills ! My bills are the water the cable / internet / phone. and that is recent meaning i used to pay the local cable company for the cable and the internet only my bill came up to 120 a month.when this was the case which was manageable but with the addition of the phone it jumped to 160 a month. The phone was my moms idea not mine i have a cell phone which is from boost mobile the bill is 65 dollars a month which is small and i just had a heated discussion with my mom about the bill she jacked up. Her argument was i was complaining about 40 dollars i kept saying the problem isn`t the fourty it was the toatal of 160 a month the water bills is usually 60 every two – three months no problem there but i hardly make over 300 dollars a month the new cable&internet / phone bill plus the 60 cell bill is 225 monthly which is almost my whole pay this leaves me with 75 dollars which i found unacceptable after further discussion she agreed to reimburse me for the house phone. I pay for every month and don`t use so was i right to be heated or was i wrong she`s my mom and i love her but i`m young and need my money and the amount i mentioned doesn`t count the months where i need to pay the water bill and any extra expenses that may arise
i am grateful for her letting me stay and will do what it takes to help her out but not if i am left with nothing to show for my work.
That you all i was just wondering if i was in the right is all .The bill is really no huge problem as i love oth cable and internet she agreed to repay me fourty bucks a month so i`m not woried . sides if i get my car soon i`ll need the extra cash
Best answer:
Answer by Nicole C
you are right, you are paying for wayyy too much. you should help where you can but paying those bills for the house is just ridiculous
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let me start by saying that i respect you being a good boy and doing what you should do and help out your family with bills. that said, you need to grow up a little. i worked full time and went to college full time and paid ALL of my own bills, which were WAY more than 225/month. be grateful for the hand you were dealt. one day you will be completely independent, and while it’s nice, it’s no picnic, it’s life.
gl to you.
Maybe she should just give you a set amount to pay every month and that would save any argument. If the bills you were paying were strictly your own, I would say you should pay whatever the amount is…but since we are talking about you chipping in to shared bills, I would say a set amount would save everyone a lot of trouble. Then, if her bills went up, she could say to you “hey, I need you to start paying an extra 20 dollars” or something like that.
It sounds like you did the right thing by calling it right there and renegotiating, though you did not need to get heated up over it… just spell out the numbers.
You need running money, otherwise you are staring at having to get her to give you money for gas, books and supplies. $ 75 a month doesn’t go very far at all.
See if you can back the cable down to a more basic package… it isn’t like you are around to watch much of anything anyway.
Getting through school and getting to work, you will be able to earn more money. You may even be able to apprentice part-time with some contractors… including cable installers. Start thinking about maximizing your earning now.
i normally side with moms on this kind of stuff…
but you sound mature and responsible and I think you are right. it is not logical to pay so much for a home phone when cell phones are so much cheaper and to make you pay so much without consulting you was irresponsible of her.
Man she is letting you off cheap Just wait until you get out on your own The bills go up even more. They will all be yours.I don’t think she is welchin off of you You may be doing just that to her It sounds like she is just letting you know how really hard it is .I think she loves you .Don’t let money put a thorn in your relationship with your mom It’s not worth it,I wish my bills would go away But that is not the real world!
That is an adult thing to do. you reside there and it would not be any cheaper to be on your own. Living cost money. Nobody can live on air. Im certain Mom pays way more. This will keep you honest for when you can afford your own place. I pay everything here daughter buys food, cell bill and now half cable and internet together.Daughter gives me grief. Its a stressful thing to have adult children chip in for bills. Again…pay your way it will keep you in check. Calmy approach your dilemma and stay responsible and strong these are rare qualities indeed.